Monday, April 20, 2009

They Aren't Worth It

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I was in the mall recently and overheard a couple of girls taking about some friends of theirs that were feuding over a boy. And I just don’t get it. Even when I was an angsty, needy teen, I never fought with my friends over boys. No matter how much I “loved” (or, more likely “lusted after”) my boyfriend/crush/booty call, it was never more important to me than my girlfriends. I always had the attitude that even if I married this guy today, on our 50th anniversary, I would b e celebrating my approximately 65th anniversary with Hedge. I had a friend who put boyfriends first. Every time she had one, you never saw her – it was all boyfriend al the time. This started when we were about 13 and continued well into adulthood. As in, she just grew a pair a coupe of year ago. But even she didn’t play those bullshit games that these girls seem to be playing. There were rules. You didn’t date your friends’ boyfriends. You didn’t date your friends’ exes. You took your friends’ sides in every disagreement. Because boyfriends come and go, but friends are (mostly) forever.

But you also know when to let it go. I have had people wonder if it’s weird that hedge is married to someone I used to date. No. It’s not. Because we are adults and high school was twentysmrrphnngg years ago. I’ll admit, if she had ended up marrying THE high school boyfriend, it would have been weird for a while. But she didn’t. She married the Freshman Night Date. Big fat deal. I think she may have written “Good luck with Asshole (not his real name)” in my freshman yearbook. By the time she started dating him, I barely even knew him anymore, so who cares.

We did fight over him once. Recently, in fact:

Hedge: You take him

Gina: Hell no

Hedge: Come ON

Gina: No way – why would I want him?

Hedge: You owe me

Gina: What? For what?

Hedge: Well… - I know! Remember that time we hid a bottle of Old Granddad in the bushes and then we went back to look for it and it was gone?

Gina: Yeah?

Hedge: Well, you owe me.

Gina: Why on earth would I owe you for that?

Hedge: Did we not take photos of the bushes so we could use the flash as a light?

Gina: Yeah.

Hedge: And it didn’t work?

Gina: Yeah.

Hedge: Well, it was YOUR camera.

Gina: You’re crazy, bitch. I let you wear my prom gown any time you wanted. I owe you nothing.

Hedge: Eh. You want a beer?

Gina: Yeah.

Hedge: ……..

Gina: ……..

Hedge: Seriously, though. Take him.

Gina: Fuck you.

Hedge: Well, it was worth a try.

Gina: I know. Hey – didn’t he date that skanky girl? Maybe she’ll take him!

Hedge: Give me the phone.

I wanted to tell those girls not to fight over a boy, because 20 years from now, neither of them would want him anymore.

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I am a Tornado ~ proven fact! said...

The skanky girl can have mine too.

Take 'em all.

But, can I borrow Gerald Butler. I only want to borrow him for a bit. He may return with a few scratches but nothing some neosporin couldn't heal.

>Opps. Have I said too much?<

Karen said...

I love the conversations that you have with your friends.

Shelly said...

Ain't that the truth? I always wondered why girls got so much madder at the girl their boyfriend cheated with than at their boyfriend. HE's the one who was supposed to be faithful to you, not her!

Hedge said...

ok here is my final offer, you have pushed me. I will toss in a bottle of booze, your choice, unlimited use of Squidward for snarky remarks and I will prank anyone you choose at our next drunkover. This is my final offer or I do have to call skanky ho and offer her antibiotics.

Gwen said...

I don't remember fighting over boys either. But that's probably because I had major self-esteem issues that prevented me from even trying with boys. I do remember having a few girlfriends try to steal my first boyfriend when I was 19. I didn't stay friends with girls like that (and they didn't steal my boyfriend away!)

As frustrating as it is to watch, I think some girls need to learn some lessons the hard way. You can't tell a teenage girl, "Hey, you're not going to care about that guy in 20 years!" I just don't think she would ever believe you, not for a million years. Everything is a big deal at 16.

Lisa said...

I know, much more drama involved now than the good old days indeed. Makes me glad I'm not young anymore and have my sweetie, good bad or indifferent.

Anonymous said...

Can I show this post to my girls when they are old enough? Thanks.


Tanyetta said...

Exactly and you should have told them too! :)